Becoming “Unmessablewith”

Hippie Go Free Free 🐸
3 min readNov 16, 2024

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The word “Un-mess-able-with” is certainly made up, and yet, also tattooed around the top half of my right arm. To be “unmessablewith” is a phrase I first heard during an enrollment in a self-help workshop that took place on the corner of 34th and 8th in Manhattan, during the Summer of 2015. What exactly does this mean? It means, life is going to happen. All of it. The good, the bad, the messy, the tragic, the joyful, and the emotional. This human experience is one hell of a ride, but it is up to us to decide what kind of ride. Yes, you read that correctly. I said, DECIDE. Majority of the time, we are not choosing what the heck is unfolding around us. I invite you now to reflect on your day for a moment. Think about your family, your household, your job, your co-workers, your this, your that, on and on…. See? Most of us have a nice full plate filled with being alive. We love that! The gratitude is real. But so is the heartache, the annoying little things, and the daily frustration. However, we STILL get to choose. We CHOOSE how we respond to every detail. That is our superpower. Our superpower lives in our brain. How will I choose to see this? Which perspective will I choose? How will I choose to respond to this? Which behavior of mine will I choose? What will I choose to say? Being “unmessablewith” does not mean that the unwanted will never occur. It means, that no matter what does occur, we still have the power to remain unbothered. To be “unmessablewith,” means that even though life may mess with us, it doesn’t have to actually matter.

My favorite example is the quintessential spilling of the morning coffee. Picture a hectic weekday morning, the hustle and bustle has begun, and you are simply just trying to beat traffic on the way to the office. Yet, right there, during that first sip of the hot elixir of life we all so crave, BAM! Coffee cup slips from your sleepy grip and is now dumped all over your lap. Whether we choose to laugh, cry, scream, yell, or simply just shake it off, the end result is the same; You got a lap full of caffeine. Unless you are doing your morning commute in Doc Brown’s DeLorean, you are sh*t out of luck my friend. You may have lost your beverage, but you do not have to lose your mind. Stay “unmessablewith.” Utilize this inconvenient moment to finally treat yourself to your favorite, overly priced, and way too sugary Latte from the coffee shop that sits just one exit before your office. Maybe purchase a few extra of those steaming joes for your cubicle buddies. Now we just transmuted loss into generosity.

Look, you got wet pants. We would all be mad. But we still get to choose HOW LONG WE STAY MAD. How long do we want to remain pissed off? 5-minutes? 60-minutes? Half the day? All day? The choice is yours. On a personal note, I have recently been very candid and forthcoming about my relationship with my own career in the restaurant industry. And even though there is a great possibility my time inside this specific industry may be slowly expiring, I can still choose to adjust my perspectives for the time being. Instead of the noise in my head being, “Why did they just double sit me, again?!” “How can anyone expect me to juggle all this?!” “We are still out of glasses?!” And so on. I have begun the process of replacing one unhelpful thought, with a new thought that may actually be workable like, “I am doing the best I can.”

My dear friends, life will mess with us. Contrast is going to occur. The days do not always unfold exactly how we desire them too. But we do not have to give all our power away to the unwanted. Let’s CHOOSE to stay “unmessablewith,” no matter what!

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Hippie Go Free Free 🐸
Hippie Go Free Free 🐸

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