A More Tantric Mindset
The term “Tantric Sex” may or may not sound familiar to you. Certainly, I am no expert, so I invite you to do your own research on the topic and connect with whatever resonates for you. For me, Tantric Sex is all about being present, allowing our senses to heighten, basking in the new sensitives that arise, and deepening the Spiritual bond with both self and your partner. Tantric Sex shows up to me as a form of meditative sensuality. I own 3-books on this topic and my husband has most definitely reaped the benefits of this titillating new path, just as much as I have. To much of my surprise, the benefit for me has gone above and beyond what we are experiencing in the bedroom.
One of the first examples used to help guide a novice reader into Chapter 1 of Tantric Sex is touching upon the topic of the “Slow Food Movement.” In fact, the beginning stages of learning about Tantra rarely has anything to do with sex. It begins with an invitation to slow down. Way down. To allow yourself to become more mindful of everything we are doing throughout the day. During your next meal, tune-in. Majority of us are shoving the food down, typically as we are rushing to the next task on our daily To Do list. But instead, just for fun, pump the breaks. FEEL the fork in your hand. Take smaller bites and truly TASTE the food. Absorb each seasoning and spice as it rolls around on your tongue. Hold the plate up to your nose and breathe in the delicious smell of the dish that is about to fuel your body and your soul. Savor each morsel. Pause in-between each mouthful, gifting yourself the opportunity to thoroughly enjoy your snack. This exercise doesn’t just benefit your mind and spirit, but also your body. Slowing down allows our bodies to slip back into parasympathetic “rest-and-digest” mode. I don’t know about you, but I know how unfortunately effortless it is for me to slip into a random “Fight or Flight” spiral over something totally small. In fact, the more I learned about Tantric Sex the more I learned about embracing Tantra as a whole, which only loudly pointed out just how often my adrenal glands were pumping on overdrive. My autopilot has been set on “anxiety” so long, that rushing around became normal.
I started to pay attention to my movements. Not just how fast am I eating this meal, but how fast am I washing those dishes? How rapidly (and sometimes aggressively) am I brushing my teeth? Combing my hair? Walking to the mailbox? Or what about my thoughts? Are they racing? Am I bouncing from one thought to another? During conversations with friends, am I actively listening or just pondering what my next response will be? For the last couple weeks, I have been sincerely paying attention to my own internal pace. And you know what? It was way more rapid than I would have ever guessed.
We could have easily labeled this blog as a “Part 1” because I have truly only just begun. There is still so much for me to learn and unlearn on this path. I welcome fresh information and a variety of perspectives on living a more Tantric Lifestyle. This journey feels exciting, yet calm, simultaneously. Imagine that? Feeling both exhilaration and tranquility at the same time? For me, that’s been exactly what I have been experiencing, and I love it.